1. Not surprised, and good for you! You certainly have all the facts and the insight and that women’s intuition that this is the right thing for you, Amy.

    Can’t wait to see how this all goes for you…

  2. I’m very excited for you Amy! I have 2 sons, both hospital births and I didn’t have any say in any part of it.(One c-section, doctor’s choice) Of course that was 12 yrs ago too. I’m so glad more women are standing up for themselves now and demanding that their births go as THEY plan them. (As much as possible – you know those babies always have a say too and make that very much known!! lol)
    If I am ever lucky enough to have another child, I plan on a home birth being an option for me now.
    I look forward to following you through this journey. Thanks for sharing it with us!

  3. I’m not surprised at your decision either, Amy, and find that you are a responsible, loving parent who wants the best for her family. I think most women who choose home birth are well researched about it. Nobody wants complications or emergencies and it’s a good back up plan that your hospital is only 5 minutes away. I also love the caring, connecting, almost primal feminine bonding that happens with a midwife, from your prenatal appointments, to the actual birth and post birth mother and baby care. You get so much more support with breastfeeding too.

    Will your sister be attending the birth? How do your family and Jody’s family feel about your decision? Ultimately it only matters what you and your husband decide, but I’m just curious if you have familial support.

  4. I applaud your decision, if this is what is right for you then do it… I know I don’t really get the tandem or extended breastfeeding thing but I do wholeheartedly embrace natural and home births. In the group of people I run with it is weird to not consider home birthing. My mom was born on a couch in a garage with nobody around to help and she was healthy as can be. You have made an admirable decision… hospitals are freaky anyway.

  5. Amy, I think that is a great choice for you! I wish I were ‘brave’ enough to do it myself. I think probably fear of something going wrong (needing an emergency c-section w/ my daughter) is what frightens me the most about ahome birth..well that and no possibility of an epidural if I can’t take the pain! LOL! :) Probably goes along with my current hesitations to feed Amelia a vegan diet which I am striving for. I am just so afraid I am going to do something ‘wrong’ and damage my precious girl. Anyways, sorry for the long post. Yay for you, I say!!

  6. my daughter was born at home! my son was an attempted home birth, but we ended up transferring to the hosp. at the last minute.. still a drug free birth!

    my daughter’s homebirth was the very best day of my life to date :)

    my son was 2 yrs old, and he attended the birth (with a support person, and he was free to come and go as he pleased, he was also free to leave the house entirely if he didn’t like it)

    HAPPY HOMEBIRTHING! can’t wait to hear how it all went!

  7. Homebirth is the most amazing, empowering, peaceful experience. I pine for natural labor again, the endorphins, the adrenaline, the excitement, the energy…
    You are wise to trust your body. Perhaps our bodies are the one thing we can really trust, they are our means for survival and love.

  8. Hooray! You know I’m very happy to hear this – I think it’ll be so wonderful for you and the family – and the baby too of course! There is so much freedom with a homebirth. Congratulations on your wonderful decision.

  9. I say, more power to you! I firmly believe in a woman following her instincts and taking an active part in managing her labor and birth experience whether in a hospital or in her home. It’s about YOU, your baby and both your well-being. Should be, anyway.

    I hope your homebirth is everything you wish it to be and more!

  10. Kleo – Thx for your encouragment. :)

    HM Tonja – I agree with you that it is time for women to reclaim their right to have healthy and safe births. It’s unfortunate that women were robbed of this for so many years when all women were strapped flat on their backs, drugged (to the point of unconsciousness) and had their babies literaly extracted from their birth canals, only to wake up and find their babies stuck in a nursery for observation for 24 (or whatever) hours. It really saddens me to think that that was standard procedure and not too many years ago.
    Thanks for your support. :)

    Amy – Thank you. My sister will be here for the birth. She was here for Ava’s as well. :)
    Ya know, our families haven’t said a whole lot about our decision. I know that they love and respect us though. It might not be something they’d choose for themselves, but I think they will support us since it’s what we want to do (though I’m sure there will be some concern-just cuz that’s what being a parent is all about, right?).

    Suzy – Thanks. :) I honestly think the more you research and learn about homebirths, the less need for fear there is (at least that’s been my experience). As I continue on this journey, I find the more I learn about hospitals and standard procedures and doctors’ timeframes, etc., the more I think women who elect to birth in a hospital are “brave” rather than the women who do so in their own homes. ;) But I do understand what you are saying. And I know what you mean about not wanting to “damage” your precious girl. Good luck w/ the vegan eating. I know a handful of vegans (with kids who are vegan) in the blogging world and would be happy to give you some links if you want to check them out. :)

    michelle – thank you for sharing your stories with me and your encouragement. :)

    leigh – welcome to my blog. i’m glad you found your way over here too. :) thx for your support. i look fwd to learning more about you on your blog.

    miriam – so good to hear from you. :) yes, i know what you mean about so much freedom w/ a homebirth and that’s something i am looking fwd to. btw, your birth story was an inspiration to me. thank you.

    ninotchka – thank you so much. :) i think you hit the nail on the head.

  11. Amy,
    Wow! I didn’t know you were headed down that path. I wholeheartedly applaude you for standing up for you birth and making the decision to labor and birth where you feel is right. That takes strength and self confidence. What aweosme attributes to pass to your children.

  12. Sonja – Yeah, I hadn’t really been talking about it much so I don’t think all of our friends knew/know. While I’d been thinking about it for a while, the real decision only came in the last month or so.
    Thank you for your kind words and support. :)

  13. YAY!! All positive comments! The more positive energy you create in the universe the better :) Here’s more kudos for your decision, I have never been so brave, but admire those that are!

  14. Beckie – Thank you! I’m very happy with all of the positive feedback too. You never know what to expect when you put yourself “out there” on your blog, but I’m glad everyone has been respectful.

  15. *delurking*

    Another homebirthing mama sending you the thumbs up!

  16. Anon – Thx for delurking and for the thumbs up. :) I really appreciate all the support!

  17. I’ve wanted to comment on this post since you wrote it, but I’ve been so swamped! I’ve been online long enough to just do the stuff that needs to be done, like blogging in wee hours of the night. ;)

    Anyway, I will be sending you all my love and positive thoughts for you on your birth. You will have a wonderful home birth, I just know it. I wanted to homebirth Seren, but we had Kaiser, and I didn’t know I could just do it on my own. I was a bit naive. Then for the surrogacy, I suggested it, but they would not go for it. I swear I will have a homebirth one of these days. I would even love to attend one. I love the whole idea that surrounds birth, even if I can’t seem to do it the way I want. All this to say, good thoughts to you. I know you will have the strength to do it!

  18. It will probably be many years yet before I have children, but I’ve thought very seriously about home birth and drug free birth for a number of years now. It is a little scary to think about, but at the same time I am very interested in the intimacy provided by birthing at home, and although there will obviously be pain, I am keen to make sure that my rememberances of the esxperience are not dulled by drugs.

    My mom is a nurse, and though she has said she isn’t comfortable being the only person present at a home birth, I would very much like her to be integral to the whole process. She would gladly assist a midwife.

    I hope you enjoy your birth experience. I think it’s a lovely choice.

  19. Good luck, try to enjoy yourself. (Is that possible during labor?) I guess I’m not a real big fan of home births, but that might be because I’ve never had a kid, and I plan on going to nursing school so I tend to side with the more traditional western medicine. But really, the decision should be whatever Mom wants and whatever she decides is best, so in that respect, I wish you all the best.

    I did see a special on DiscoveryHealth about a woman who gave birth at home in a birthing pool…she let her 10 year old catch the baby, which I personally think could be a little traumatic. After all, the kid’s still a kid, and a vagina’s still a vagina, and…I don’t know, it just seemed really weird to me.

    I personally would NOT want to ever see my own mother’s vagina, nor would she care much to show it to me, but that’s our family dynamics and like I said before, if you want to do that, fine, it’s your birth, your life, your kids, you could have the baby while swinging from the monkey bars and as long as you thought that was the right thing for you and you weren’t going to be killed in the process, then I’d be cool with it. Good luck with everything.

  20. Tiffiny – Thanks so much for your show of love and support. It means a lot. I hope you get to have or attend a homebirth someday yourself. :)

    Bianca – Welcome to my blog. :) I think it’s awesome that even though having children may be a ways off for you, you are already thinking about what you’d like your birth experience to be like. It sounds like you have a great relationship with your mom and having her involved in some capacity would be lovely. I also noticed you are in OK. I lived there (OKC) for a few years before I had kids, but never thought of it as a very AP/natural parenting-friendly sort of place. Then again, that may be just because I didn’t have kids and didn’t seek out that kind of support/people.
    Anyway, thanks for your encouragement. :)

    Caroline – Welcome to my blog and thanks for sharing your thoughts on homebirth with me. I agree that different things are right for different people, and I admire that you respect that about me.
    I think some of the uncomfortableness about nudity and breastfeeding as well in our culture comes from it being a puritanical society. While I don’t intend for Ava to catch the baby, I have no problem with her seeing him being born. I think birth is a beautiful, amazing thing and I believe it would be a wonderful experience to share with her (if she chooses to be there for it). :)

  21. Just found your blog, and reading through pold posts. Sending positive home birth thoughts your way. While my 3 were hospital births, all were midwife attended, and 2 were totally medication free. I delivered my daughter in water. What an amazing experience. Good for you for doing your research, and having a good “just in case’ plan.

  22. Amanda – Welcome to my blog. Thanks for your positive thoughts. :) I bet having your daughter in water was just incredible. I hope to experience that myself.

  23. Way to go Amy! I admire your choice. Honestly, if I had the guts I’d do the same. Having said that, I’m lucky that I’ll be delivering in a small local hospital with a midwife, and the OB won’t appear unless there is a problem so the situation here is a bit different. The hospital has everything available, but I do get to choose what I use and how I labour. Maybe if this birth goes well, and we decide to have another baby I’ll do the homebirth thing. ;-)

  24. Penny – Thank you. You are lucky to have that option. :) I think I’d be happy doing something similar – birthing at a birthing center with a midwife if only we had something like that available here. But unfortunately, it’s not an option.

  25. interesting article.. i am currently weighing up my options as a disabled woman ( i have ME and fibro ) and my ob consultant has told my that my baby will probably come early and due to health probs they want me to have a caesarean. i do not feel in my gut that this is necessarily so, and stumbled across your blog whilst researching. Thank you and will subscribe to your blog

    sam x

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