1095 days old

Ava - almost 3 yrs old

Happy 3rd birthday to you, my dear daughter Ava today. I love you and am so proud to be your mama. :)

I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat
But always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leave you empty handed
I hope you still feel small
When you stand by the ocean
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
Promise me you’ll give faith a fighting chance

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Living might mean taking chances
But they’re worth taking
Lovin’ might be a mistake
But it’s worth making
Don’t let some hell bent heart
Leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out
Reconsider
Give the heavens above
More than just a passing glance

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance

— Lee Ann Womack

All aboard the crazy train

Let’s see how much stuff I can pack into five days, shall we?

First, on Wednesday, get filling in tooth. Translation: spend most of the morning psyching myself up to go through with the filling, only to have my heart start racing like mad anyway when I was finally sitting in the chair and he was about to drill. Despite that the dentist was, in fact, a hottie, having my tooth drilled still hurt. I was so busy trying to find my happy place while staring intently at one spot on the ceiling that he could’ve looked like Frankenstein’s monster for all I cared. It was not my idea of a good time. In fact, I’d happily take natural pain med-free childbirth over a filling any day. Seriously. Apparently I’m a big wimp when it comes to dental work.

Secondly, on Thursday, have parents fly in from MI to stay with us (in mid- to upper-90 degree heat* with no A/C) for 6 days. Translation: clean the house the night before and then plan to sweat our selves silly.

Thirdly, on Friday, celebrate Ava’s 3rd birthday! Woot! :) Translation: plan a fun-filled day for Ava, complete with favorite foods and a birthday cake. And write a letter to Ava to sum up the past year (something I do for her on every birthday). (Still working on all of that.)

Fourthly, on Saturday, throw a birthday party (in 94 degree heat) for Ava and friends at a local park. Translation: drive self crazy trying to get everything ready for the party. (I still have a bunch of things I need to buy.) Oh, and more sweating.

Fifthly, on Sunday, plan to attend the National Mile High Breastfeeding Celebration to participate in breaking the national record for the most women breastfeeding in one place. Also, plan to blog about it at a later date and take pictures to share on my blog and possibly with other bloggers. Did I mention it’s supposed to be 98 degrees that day?! Translation: pack family in the car to drive an hour to Denver, nurse Julian at the appointed time while sweating my butt off, pack family back into car for an hour drive back home. Nah, I’m sure we will hang out and have a good time. I just wish it wasn’t going to be 98 degrees.

Sixthly, also on Sunday, plan to attend sister’s “I graduated from law school” party. Translation: even more sweating to ensue, but this time with free food. :)

Whew! Is that all? Yes, that’s all. Are you sensing a theme?

Any one of those things by itself in a week would be all fine and good (preferably with cooler temps), but to try to do all of them in the span of five days qualifies me for the crazy award. If I’m not blogging the next few days, you’ll know why. I’ll be on the crazy train. Sweating. ;)

*Jody and I finally got around to watching Al Gore’s “An Inconvenient Truth” the other night. It’s only been sitting on our entertainment center for a month now. I plan to blog about it another time, but can you say “global warming?”

Tooth-hurty

Q: When’s a good time to go to the dentist?

A: 2:30. Get it? Tooth-hurty?

Groan.

On Wednesday afternoon I’m heading in to see a new (to me) dentist to have a cavity filled. At least, I hope that’s all that has to be done.

I’ve had this decay in my back bottom tooth (molar) since I was pregnant with Julian. My dentist at the time said he’d fix it when I was no longer pregnant. Well, that darn tooth started hurting a lot one day so I made another appointment. By the time I was seen again (a few days after it started acting up), it was no longer hurting, and, because I was still pregnant, he said we should wait to do anything about it until I had the baby.

The baby is now nearly 7 months old and I’ve yet to go in and get that tooth filled. I’ve had a cleaning since Julian was born though, and talked to the dentist then about filling it. But I discovered at that time that he uses amalgam (i.e. mercury) fillings and something about that didn’t sit right with me.

I started doing some research about mercury fillings and found a bunch of information about why it’s not necessarily safe to have them. So why get them at all when alternatives (composite, gold, porcelain) are available?


Check out the “Smoking Teeth = Poison Gas” video from the International Academy of Oral Medicine and Toxicology. There’s a lot of good information on that site. Or read more here or there’s a ton of information on the Mothering dental forum.

One of the big concerns if you are a woman who has amalgam fillings and has had children is that you’ve likely passed mercury to your child in utero and then also exposed them to mercury while breastfeeding. (Of course, amalgam fillings or not, breast milk is still the best possible nutrition for your babies.) It is for those reasons that many women are having their amalgam fillings removed and replaced.

From HeartSpring.net: Elemental (metallic) mercury and its compounds are toxic and exposure to excessive levels can permanently damage or fatally injure the brain and kidneys. Elemental mercury can also be absorbed through the skin and cause allergic reactions. Ingestion of inorganic mercury compounds can cause severe renal and gastrointestinal toxicity. Organic compounds of mercury such as methylmercury are considered the most toxic forms of the element. Exposures to very small amounts of these compounds can result in devastating neurological damage and death.

For fetuses, infants and children, the primary health effects of mercury are on neurological development. Even low levels of mercury exposure such as result from mother’s consumption methylmercury in dietary sources can adversely affect the brain and nervous system. Impacts on memory, attention, language and other skills have been found in children exposed to moderate levels in the womb.

I feel fortunate that I’ve only had a couple very small cavities in the past and they were filled with composite fillings.

Anyway, I decided to find a dentist who didn’t use amalgam. I asked some friends and found one who accepts our insurance. So that’s where I’m headed tomorrow. *Gulp*

From what I hear, this dentist is pretty easy on the eyes. I guess if you have to have someone drilling in your mouth, they could at least be cute. ;) Still, I’m not too excited about this. Wish me luck.

Local breastfeeding happenings

Breastfeeding has been in the news here locally quite a bit this past week. It all started when a nursing woman was asked to cover-up or move while feeding her 5-month-old son by the wave pool at Elitch Gardens in Denver. Apparently some people at the pool complained that she was exposing herself. (Note: Nearly naked women walking around in skimpy bikinis is not offensive, but using your breasts for the purpose which they were intended is.) The woman knew that CO law (CRS 25-6-301, 25-6-302 (2004) recognizes the benefits of breastfeeding and encourages mothers to breastfeed. The law also allows a mother to breastfeed in any place she has a right to be. [SB 88]) protected her right to breastfeed anywhere she has the right to be and stated that to the employees, who then proceeded to get their supervisor and eventually the Denver police involved. Ultimately, she was able to feed her son, but only while being harassed the whole time and told it was “common sense” that she should cover up or move. Common sense to put a blanket over the baby’s head in 90 degree heat? Huh?

I feel so bad for this mom for having to deal with that for simply trying to feed her son. I applaud her for knowing her rights and not backing down despite them berating her.

I don’t understand the people who find a baby eating to be so offensive. If it honestly bothers them that much, why do they insist upon looking? Why not turn your head and look elsewhere?

Some local moms held a nurse-in at Elitch’s a few days after the incident, which also made headlines.

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On a more positive note, the other local breastfeeding event is the upcoming National Mile High Breastfeeding Celebration to be held from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Sunday, June 24, at the Auraria Campus in Denver. The event features family-friendly vendors, food, and entertainment for the whole family, as well as an attempt to set a national record for the most number of women breastfeeding at one time. The goal to surpass is 1,130 moms. Registration is required for participation in the record-setting event.

It sounds like a fun way to spend the day and support the cause, so me and the fam are going to head down there and hopefully help break the record. :) Anybody else local to Denver going to participate?

BSM – 6/18/07

Welcome to my Father’s Day edition of Best Shot Monday. :)

With the temps in the upper 90s, we spent the afternoon yesterday at the rec center pool. It was Julian’s first time in a pool and he seemed to enjoy himself, as well as his little fist which he chewed on the entire time. (Perhaps another tooth is in the works?) Ava went down the slide countless times and had no fear in the water. We need to sign her up for some swimming lessons. And Jody enjoyed cooling off in the water, while I enjoyed the impromptu photo shoot, and then the water as well. A good time was had by all. :)

Here’s my choice for BSM:
Mohawk swimmin’ Julian 6/17/07 Don’t you love the mohawk that Jody sculpted on the buddy? His hair dried like that too. So cute! (Oh, and the chubby lil knee roll there too. Love the rolls.)

Here are some other pics from our afternoon:
Sliding Ava 6/17/07 Ava at the bottom of the slide 6/17/07 Daddy’s little fishy 6/17/07 Father and son 6/17/07 Jody and the kids 6/17/07

Lastly, I want to share one of Jody’s Father’s Day presents. For the past two years, I’ve made him a storyboard of Ava holding letters to spell out “DADDY.” We did it again, but this year, of course, Ava had company. ;)

Ava and Julian - DADDY - 6/15/07

Be sure to click over to Picture This to see everyone else’s choices for Best Shot Monday.

Single parenting no more (and other stuff)

I’m happy to announce that my 4-day stretch of single parenting this week has come to an end! Jody got back tonight safe and sound from California, where he’d been on business since Tuesday.

This is only the second time he’s had to travel since Julian was born, but it seemed like this time was a bit harder than the last. Tandem nursing the kids before bed was, as it always is on the rare occasion it happens, interesting, but it also had it’s sweet moments.

We kept ourselves pretty busy with the farm summer camp for Ava on Tuesday, an attachment parenting meeting and visit from my sister on Wednesday, a couple play dates on Thursday, a doctor’s appointment (Julian’s 6 month check-up) and an afternoon at my sister’s house today, complete with feeding the neighbor’s ponies (two mamas and two babies – so cute!) and testing our her new Slip ‘n Slide. Unfortunately, I didn’t have my camera with me.

Julian’s appointment (only his second time to the doctor – we last went at 2 months) with Dr. G went well. He’s healthy and developmentally ahead. He weighed in at 21 lbs. and is 28 1/4 inches long. She gave me credit for my wonderful breast milk. He’s on the verge of crawling forward – already goes backwards quite well. And he got his first tooth this week on Tuesday, which I already mentioned in my last post, but what the hay. ;) No vaccines for this kiddo yet. We’re waiting until he’s at least a year (like we did for Ava), maybe longer. I thought Dr. G might suggest more solids for the buddy when I told her we’ve only tried a couple things and he hasn’t been very interested, but she didn’t think it was a big deal. Nor did she care that we are still co-sleeping (though I am not sure why it’s even asked). And she didn’t push the vaccination issue at all either. It makes me happy when doctors are concerned with the health and well-being of a child rather than trying to push their personal parenting beliefs on you. I’ve got two healthy, happy kids, so apparently I’m doing something right, right? ;) Ava got a fishy sticker for being such a good girl during the appointment.

It was hotter than hell here today and will be all weekend. I guess summer has arrived. Not sure what we are going to do yet. I know what we should be doing which is getting a storage unit and moving out boxes and clutter, but that doesn’t sound very appealing to me. We need to go to Costco (signed up for a membership last weekend and I was pleasantly surprised to see how much organic food they carry these days – woot!) to order Ava’s birthday cake for her party which is next weekend. My baby is turning 3 a week from today! I’m totally not ready for the party nor do I have the house ready for my parents who will be arriving on Wednesday. June is such a crazy busy month.
I keep asking Jody what he wants to do for Father’s Day and he still hasn’t given me anything concrete. We’ll need to get out of this hot house though, that’s for sure.

Not sure how much blogging I’ll be doing this weekend, so I’ll wish all the dads out there a very Happy Father’s Day now. :) Happy Dad’s Day to my dad, to Jody, and to all the dads out there in bloggerland!