Comments on: Why I’m trying to let go of the mommy guilt & focus on myself & my marriage http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/2009/10/13/letting-go-mommy-guilt-focus-myself-marriage-balance/ Just another mama musing about her kids, Attachment Parenting, green living, activism, living with an anxiety disorder, and life in general Thu, 24 May 2012 12:58:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Melodie http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/2009/10/13/letting-go-mommy-guilt-focus-myself-marriage-balance/comment-page-1/#comment-21506 Melodie Sun, 25 Oct 2009 03:35:28 +0000 http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/?p=3263#comment-21506 I totally relate to this post. I'm sending my oldest to public school and it was a hard decision because my values lie elsewhere, but so far, minus a couple glitches I have worked out with her Kindergarden teacher already, so good. If you are interested I wrote about this here: http://www.breastfeedingmomsunite.com/2009/08/seven-reasons-im-sending-my-child-to-public-school-and-the-three-big-reasons-i-wish-i-wasnt/ I totally relate to this post. I’m sending my oldest to public school and it was a hard decision because my values lie elsewhere, but so far, minus a couple glitches I have worked out with her Kindergarden teacher already, so good. If you are interested I wrote about this here: http://www.breastfeedingmomsunite.com/2009/08/seven-reasons-im-sending-my-child-to-public-school-and-the-three-big-reasons-i-wish-i-wasnt/

]]> By: eco-lovely http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/2009/10/13/letting-go-mommy-guilt-focus-myself-marriage-balance/comment-page-1/#comment-21385 eco-lovely Tue, 20 Oct 2009 04:15:35 +0000 http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/?p=3263#comment-21385 It's amazing to me that I dreamed about this whole thing, the husband, the kids.... my whole life leading up to it. And then it happens and it's so challenging to keep all the balls in the air. I sometimes ask myself- is this what I day dreamed about as a little girl. Jees...if I only knew!What was I thinking? I know my daily choices hinder my marriage. I know I have to make an effort. I don't want to wake up one day and things are too far gone. Marriages do have breaking points. Anyway, I am trying to balance it all. Like everyone else. It is obvious by the responses to your post that more people (which I suspected)are in the same boat. Thank you for your courage and your honesty. Big exhale...I'm not the only one! Good luck with the new changes...baby steps for mama! It’s amazing to me that I dreamed about this whole thing, the husband, the kids…. my whole life leading up to it. And then it happens and it’s so challenging to keep all the balls in the air. I sometimes ask myself- is this what I day dreamed about as a little girl. Jees…if I only knew!What was I thinking?

I know my daily choices hinder my marriage. I know I have to make an effort. I don’t want to wake up one day and things are too far gone. Marriages do have breaking points.

Anyway, I am trying to balance it all. Like everyone else. It is obvious by the responses to your post that more people (which I suspected)are in the same boat.

Thank you for your courage and your honesty. Big exhale…I’m not the only one!

Good luck with the new changes…baby steps for mama!

]]> By: Adventures In Babywearing http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/2009/10/13/letting-go-mommy-guilt-focus-myself-marriage-balance/comment-page-1/#comment-21250 Adventures In Babywearing Sun, 18 Oct 2009 22:13:55 +0000 http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/?p=3263#comment-21250 Amy, I completely understand. That is something I've just been working on myself... Thinking of you. Steph Amy, I completely understand. That is something I’ve just been working on myself… Thinking of you.

Steph

]]> By: Casual Friday Every Day http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/2009/10/13/letting-go-mommy-guilt-focus-myself-marriage-balance/comment-page-1/#comment-21227 Casual Friday Every Day Fri, 16 Oct 2009 02:33:30 +0000 http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/?p=3263#comment-21227 It is hard. Choosing between what we want and what we need. Often they're two different things. I know this all too well. Good for you for recognizing your needs. Nell It is hard. Choosing between what we want and what we need. Often they’re two different things. I know this all too well. Good for you for recognizing your needs.

Nell

]]> By: Sara*MamaGoesGreen* http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/2009/10/13/letting-go-mommy-guilt-focus-myself-marriage-balance/comment-page-1/#comment-21224 Sara*MamaGoesGreen* Thu, 15 Oct 2009 21:10:39 +0000 http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/?p=3263#comment-21224 No one way works for everyone. The important part is that you are deliberate about your decisions that give you and your family true peace and joy. And if the choices you make don't work for you....make new ones. We are too hard on ourselves as women and mothers, and often too hard on other mothers around us. There has got to be a balance between just going with the flow of consumerism and keeping up with the Joneses, and the hypercritical nature of being the "BEST" at everything. You are important, and your marriage needs to be strengthened to have healthy kids and a healthy life. You'll be married after the kids are gone! Many blessings to you! No one way works for everyone. The important part is that you are deliberate about your decisions that give you and your family true peace and joy. And if the choices you make don’t work for you….make new ones. We are too hard on ourselves as women and mothers, and often too hard on other mothers around us. There has got to be a balance between just going with the flow of consumerism and keeping up with the Joneses, and the hypercritical nature of being the “BEST” at everything. You are important, and your marriage needs to be strengthened to have healthy kids and a healthy life. You’ll be married after the kids are gone! Many blessings to you!

]]> By: Kate http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/2009/10/13/letting-go-mommy-guilt-focus-myself-marriage-balance/comment-page-1/#comment-21215 Kate Thu, 15 Oct 2009 04:41:01 +0000 http://crunchydomesticgoddess.com/?p=3263#comment-21215 Great post (and decision)! Children want and need happy, loving parents. Great post (and decision)! Children want and need happy, loving parents.

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