Police called on Breastfeeding Mom in Michigan Target Store


  1. @Lilibet

    One more thought: I am not challenging your own preference for choosing to go somewhere “more quiet” rather than insist upon your rights. I personally believe that no one should have to be a “martyr” lest they be accused of being a “traitor” to a “cause”…especially when their young children are involved.

    However, I am thankful there are women who insist on their rights. Isn’t that how progress is made?

    No offense to those who literally or metaphorically sat at the back of the bus or otherwise accepted the status quo so they could get to work on time/raise their families in peace/work within the system, etc. But history does need those who refuse to back down in order for those ideas to change.

    One of the reasons I breastfed past 6 months, felt comfortable breastfeeding discretely in public, etc., etc., was because of all the activists who calmly, and politely, insist on their rights. They are the ones re-normalizing breastfeeding.

    And until the attitudes you describe as existing in our culture (and the ones seen in the comments section on the article) are gone–yes, women *will* be kicked out of stores for doing nothing more than breastfeeding.

    You argue people should not support someone simply because she is nursing. That is not what happened here. We read a story in which her story seems the most plausible.

  2. Candace,

    I think we need to agree to disagree. Hopefully, we can both agree that everyone having different opinions is what makes this world so great. It’s my way or the highway never works.

    Nursing never used to be such a volatile topic was one of my points. It was just a fact of life. I think modeling THAT point would be best. Peaceful example vs. militant. The second rarely works and really, is this something that has to be fought for? It’s not like the vote, equality for GLTB, or racial equality. It doesn’t even touch on those issues.

    I nurse, no big deal. It’s how I choose to feed my baby. That worked for me.

    I don’t feel the need to make such a big deal about this. I didn’t need to wear shirts that said, “I make milk” or put a bumper sticker on my car that touted La Leche. I worked with far too many mothers (adopted, using surrogates, or having had breast cancer or augmentation that couldn’t nurse and felt extremely guilty about it) to want to blatantly hurt someone’s feelings. And I think when people do, it hurts, rather than benefits the cause.

    I see that Mary has responded and I look forward to reading about it. Quite honestly, I doubt she’s enjoying all the attention and scrutiny.

    Meanwhile, my husband is having surgery today and I’m going to focus my energies there.

    Best wishes to you Candace. My hope for you is that you can find peace within yourself. Reading your comments, and I’m sure you don’t intend to come off this way, but you come across as being very insecure.

    I know nothing about you and you know nothing about me. Perhaps we could finish this conversation privately. I think we might find more in common than you might suspect.

  3. @lilbet – That I come off as “insecure” is your opinion. You are the one swinging criticism around.

    I have no issue with you handling your life the way you wish to. You are the one saying this nursing mother should have handled her experience better.

    You are not agreeing to disagree. You are trying to push YOUR reaction onto everyone else.

  4. Oh, and just for the record, I am not a militant. I am quite conservative. I have also never experienced an issue breastfeeding in public.

    I also do think that a woman’s right to be out in public with her baby *is* a feminist issue. I am not really an activist but yes I do think it is an important issue.

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    FYI – There was a comment here previously by someone claiming to be Mary Martinez. It was NOT Mary and the comment and subsequent comment in response to it have been deleted.

  6. Barebones of what I said in my first post was:

    1. The truth lies somewhere between what Mary and Target says. I find it interesting that people jump to her defence not even knowing her, not even being there, just because she was nursing.
    2. Cut them both some slack
    3. May have been the mistake of a seasonal employee or one with their own agenda

    Mary is quoted in an update that she wants to focus on other things. I think that’s good advice.

    Compromise is a good thing. It gets better results.

  7. I find it kind of funny that people would blame an entire corporation on one isolated incident. I am sure that not every target store or employee feels this way and I am sure they are remorseful. Although they were in the wrong I wish people would show a better ability to forgive. Holding such grudges can be exhausting :)

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